SJP Spills the Tea: Was Carrie & Big’s Love Story Actually Toxic?
At this point, Carrie Bradshaw is basically the patron saint of chaotic love lives. She’s been floating in and out of pop culture for decades—from the early aughts Sex and the City glory days to the movie sequels we pretend didn’t happen to the reboot And Just Like That…, where she’s still serving looks and confusion in equal parts. And while we’ve all moved on to streaming services and therapy, Carrie? She’s still out here debating whether she should’ve ended up with Big or Aidan—as if the answer isn’t clearly “neither.” Everyone’s Got a Take (Including SJP Herself) Are you Team Big, Team Aidan, or a rare Team Berger truther with a flair for chaos and Post-it note trauma? Either way, you’re not alone. Even Sarah Jessica Parker—yes, actual Carrie—has officially weighed in, and let’s just say… she gets the criticism. Speaking to E! News ahead of the And Just Like That… Season 3 premiere (May 29), SJP admitted she totally understands why fans side-eye Carrie’s relationship with Mr. Big. And honestly? Thank God. Because we’ve been screaming “RED FLAG!” since the Clinton administration. What Did She Actually Say? SJP called it like she saw it: a big ol’ beautifully chaotic mess. “It was romantic, and it was a disaster. It was destructive, and it was healthy,” she said. Which, sure, sounds poetic—but is also what people say right before texting their ex at 2 a.m. with “u up?” Still, she didn’t dismiss the relationship as all bad. According to her, the Carrie-Big love story was layered. “All of it was a mess, and all of it was wonderful.” A line that feels suspiciously like something Carrie would write in one of her columns before lighting a cigarette and ghosting therapy. And About Big’s Death… If you forgot (or blacked it out for emotional safety), Big died literally right after a Peloton ride in the reboot’s pilot episode. It was abrupt, dramatic, and weirdly sponsored. For SJP, killing off Big wasn’t just a plot twist—it was a full-blown existential crisis. “Big dying was really, really hard to do both professionally and personally,” she said. “It just felt really untethered.” Untethered. Like Carrie in season 4 after one too many Cosmopolitans and a life-altering Dior shopping spree. So Where Do We Go From Here? Carrie’s latest chapter involves revisiting her other long-time emotional boomerang: Aidan. Yes, the man who made her refinish floors in heels. If Big was emotionally unavailable and rich, Aidan was emotionally available and… there. Both come with baggage. One comes with wood polish. Because I Can’t Help But Wonder… Maybe Carrie was never supposed to choose between Big and Aidan. Maybe the real love story was the apartment, the shoes, and the column all along. But one thing’s clear: even Sarah Jessica Parker knows the drama was messy AF—and we loved every toxic second.